We have to stop holding other women, and especially ourselves to an otherwise impossible standard after giving birth. If you ever feel that outside pressure to lose your baby weight, just remember these reasons why “getting your body back” is absolute B.S.
Girls and boys, men and women. I don’t remember a time when we weren’t treated differently due to a perceived difference in our “innate” personality traits. Even growing up, I remember complaining to my mom as to why my brothers didn’t have to do certain chores with as much regularity as I did. She’d say “they’re boys, they just don’t understand how it needs to be done properly”.
Now this is not for the parents whose children potty trained with relative ease around the age of two. I’m sorry, and I hate you. This is for the parents who are still sneaking out of the drugstore with size 4T-5T pull-ups, wondering if they’re on the verge of having to move into the adult diaper aisle, child in tow, ducking like bandits. You look back at your child as your rush him quickly through the automatic doors…is he growing a mustache?
So you just took that first pregnancy test after being very suspicious because your period this month only came with a few very light spots. That’s called ‘implantation bleeding’ fyi. You’re going to take all three tests in the box, because that second line is just so faint, that it almost feels like a cruel, cosmic joke.
Many of us single parents have found ourselves in the position of having to file for child support. And yes, thank you for asking, it is as miserable as it sounds. In a perfect world you, first and foremost, wouldn’t be a single parent and you also wouldn’t have to go fight over money that is for the soul purpose of raising your child. However, as you’ve likely figured out, this is not a perfect world by any means.
I’m a firm believer that you’ll be a “new parent” forever. Being a parent brings a host of new experiences and new challenges for every year your child gets older. Parenting completely disrupts the way you used to live your life before children were in the picture.
Hello fellow single-moms, and married moms as well… widowed moms, estranged moms, moms going through a separation, and welcome step-moms. If you are reading this, it’s probably because you’re searching for a little mom-to-mom compassion like the rest of us; and maybe you feel like you’re drowning in motherhood and other facets of life, even if only a little bit, too.
I don’t know if it’s the fact that I’m 26, and still have a tinge of naivety, but I aways hold out hope that when I meet my ex to drop off our son, there won’t be any tension between us. But I’m usually wrong…
